When behaviour is communication, understanding matters
Children and young people do not always have the words to explain what they are experiencing. What may look like avoidance, frustration, shutdown, distress or disengagement can reflect unmet emotional, sensory, learning or relational needs.
Understanding Me Cards help school staff explore what may be happening beneath the surface, identify patterns of need, and access practical strategies to provide meaningful support.
Access linked support strategies
Move from insight to practical action with suggested strategies designed to help staff respond effectively and compassionately.
Use the cards to explore thoughts, feelings, experiences and needs in a supportive, child-centred way.
1. Listen
2. Identify Patterns
3. Support
Complete the card sort with the young person
Spot themes across the 7 psychology-informed categories of need
The cards are organised around seven evidence-informed areas that help adults understand what may be contributing to a young person’s experience
Move from insight to practical action with suggested strategies designed to help staff respond effectively and compassionately.
A simple process that leads to meaningful support
About the Creator
Dr Ali D’Amario is an experienced Educational & Child Psychologist and author, with titles including The School Mental Health Response Handbook (D'Amario & Rae, 2025). Ali is passionate about trauma-informed practice and supporting young people's emotional well-being and mental health.